Couples Therapy
Relationships have a way of revealing what lives beneath the surface of us. They stir up long-held attachment wounds, unconscious expectations, and the ways we learned to stay connected, protected, or unseen. Many couples are surprised by how powerfully these dynamics show up, especially when there is care and commitment present. This is not because something is wrong with the relationship, but because intimacy naturally reaches places that few other experiences can. Relationships don’t just reflect who we are — they activate what is unfinished within us.
Couples therapy is grounded in the belief that the same relationship that brings these wounds to light can also become a vessel for deep and lasting healing. When partners are given the space to slow down, remain present, and approach one another with curiosity rather than defense, something meaningful begins to shift. Over time, the relationship itself becomes the space for change — supporting new ways of relating, greater emotional safety, and a connection that feels more conscious, resilient, and alive.
What Brings Couples to Therapy?
Couples come to therapy for many reasons, and no two relationships look the same. The list below reflects some of the most common themes that show up in the room, though it’s not exhaustive:
Feeling stuck in repetitive patterns or cycles that don’t seem to change
Ongoing conflict, tension, or emotional distance
Difficulty communicating needs, feelings, or boundaries
Challenges rebuilding trust or repairing after a rupture
Transitions or stressors that strain the relationship
A desire to deepen emotional connection and understanding
Feeling disconnected from one another despite shared commitment
If any of these resonate, couples therapy may offer a supportive space to explore what’s happening beneath the surface.
My Approach
My work with couples is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), attachment theory, and psychodynamic understanding. Rather than focusing on who is right or wrong, we pay close attention to the patterns that emerge between you — the cycle that takes over in moments of stress, disconnection, or vulnerability. These cycles are not random; they develop for a reason and often reflect how each partner learned to stay safe and connected in close relationships.
When a couple begins to recognize their cycle, something important shifts. What once felt personal or intentional can be understood as a shared dynamic that both partners are caught inside. With increased awareness, the cycle becomes less rigid and more informative. Over time, this work supports greater emotional safety, responsiveness, and the ability to relate to one another with more choice and clarity.
Every couple has a cycle — and that cycle can become your greatest teacher.
“We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.”
— Harville Hendrix
